For four years, I have been fighting a lawsuit designed to silence me—a lawsuit filed by the very man who harmed me. Instead of taking accountability for what he did, instead of making amends, he tried to weaponize the legal system against me.
He wanted me to apologize for telling the truth.
He wanted me to pay him over $100,000.
He wanted me to erase everything I’ve ever said about him.
But now, as his case crumbles, as the truth stands stronger than ever, there is one last thing I refuse to take responsibility for:
How he chooses to react to his own downfall.
If He Can’t Handle the Consequences, That’s on Him
Let’s be clear: this lawsuit was his choice.
• He chose to lie.
• He chose to manipulate the system.
• He chose to make himself the victim while trying to destroy me.
And if, after all of that, he lashes out, throws a tantrum, blames everyone but himself, or refuses to acknowledge the truth when it’s staring him in the face?
That is not my burden to carry.
Because here’s the truth:
• I am not responsible for his inability to admit he was wrong.
• I am not responsible for his shame.
• I am not responsible for his guilt, regret, or embarrassment.
• I am not responsible for the fact that he is now forced to face what he has done.
He had every opportunity to do the right thing.
He had years to tell the truth.
He had choices.
And he made the wrong ones.
Predators Weaponize Victimhood to Avoid Accountability
This is exactly how abusers operate. They cause harm, then flip the script when the consequences hit them. They want people to feel sorry for them instead of focusing on the damage they’ve done.
If he wanted to be a good man, he would have done so before all of this.
If he wanted to change, he would have made that choice long ago.
If he wanted to fix what he broke, he wouldn’t have tried to destroy me for speaking out.
But instead, he played the long game of control. And now that control is slipping.
So if he plays the victim, makes dramatic excuses, or tries to spin this as an attack on him rather than a result of his own actions?
That is his failure—not mine.
I Knew I Would Win—Now I Want Other Survivors to Fight Too
I have never doubted that I would win this fight.
But now, after seeing everything we’ve submitted to the court—the evidence, the witness testimonies, the blatant contradictions in his statements—I am more relieved than ever.
Relieved because I know, without a doubt, that standing up and fighting back is always the right choice.
Relieved because this case is a perfect example of how predators crumble under real scrutiny.
Relieved because I see just how strong my case is—not just for me, but for every survivor who has ever been threatened into silence.
For so long, abusers have used the legal system as a weapon. They rely on fear. They count on exhaustion. They hope we’ll give up.
I want survivors to know: Fight anyway. Fight at all costs. Fight even when it’s hard, even when you’re scared, even when it seems impossible.
Because when we fight, we win.
I Refuse to Carry His Shame
Survivors are not responsible for their abusers’ downfall.
We are not responsible for their guilt.
We are not responsible for their inability to face the truth.
I have carried this for too long. And I refuse to carry one ounce of his shame.
So if, after all of this, he wants to play the martyr, throw himself a pity party, or make this into something bigger than it is to avoid the real issue?
That’s on him.
Because I’m not just winning this case. I’m proving that survivors can win, period.
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